Author(s): Father Pat Connor
Catholic priest and marriage counsellor Father Pat Connor has spent 40 years counselling and lecturing (high school seniors, mostly girls) on 'Whom Not to Marry'. This book, is a welcome and wise collection of time-tested advice on how to avoid marrying Mr Wrong. Some of Father Pat's advice includes: Never marry a man who has no friends. Steer clear of someone whose life you can run, who never makes demands counter to yours. It's good to have a doormat in the home, but not if it's your husband. Is he overly attached to his mother and her mythical apron strings? Does he have a sense of humour? Take a good, unsentimental look at his family - you'll learn a lot about him and his attitude towards women. Ultimately, does he possess those character traits that add up to a good human being - the willingness to forgive, to praise, to be courteous? Or is he inclined to be a fibber, to fits of rage, to be a control freak, to be envious of you, to be secretive?
Father Pat Connor, a 79-year-old Catholic priest born in Australia and based in New Jersey, as well as spending nine years as a missionary in India. His decades of marriage counselling led him to distil common sense advice about how to dodge mates who would ruin your happiness, first into his lecture and then into his book.